This book explains so much about why you choose the mate you do. Made total sense to me (and my book club too). It is an understandable and quick read that borrows from Freud. Why do you, a perfectionist, marry a complete slob? This book gives a pretty compelling answer to this type of question. Does your wife remind you so much of your mother and does she irritate you in the exact same way? The book discusses this type of thing too. And it says that there are no perfect marriages....there are great marriages with problems, pretty good with problems and bad with problems. This book helps you cope with those problems that we all have. Check it out!